I recently took my wife and small children on a car ride to a cottage for summer vacation. I was nervous about the ride and how long it would take with two small kids. A change in the way we’ve done things. A new circumstance. A problem. That I invented.
I recently learned about a new way of thinking, a way to approach my life, a way to flip this view: to hold a powerful “no problem” context.
What is the problem? We as humans are meaning-making machines. It is what it is. It’s not what it’s not. What am I avoiding by making problems?
Am I side stepping something that I really should be addressing? Or am I just being a jerk? At the end of the day, there is only a problem if you make it one.
It did take us an hour and a half longer to get to our destination than normal. But of course it did, because the circumstances changed. It wasn’t two carefree adults anymore. It’s a couple with kids who have their own special problems.
Reflections from Beyond the Chair
by Andrew McAleese, Owner of La Luma Salon & Academy